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Hey girls!
O Baby I totally agree! So glad everyone gets along here =). I've seen so much drama on other forums and it's like come on ppl we are all here for the same reasons!
Jac019...I am sooooo excited for u! I am praying u get that BFP! U deserve it girl. Stay positive =)
J-Rafih...you're not in this boat alone. After several tests (ultrasounds, biopsies, etc.) I was diagnosed with ANOVULATORY AMENORRHEA....this means I don't ovulate (anovulation) and I don't have periods (amenorrhea). When I do, it is VERY RARE and VERY UNEXPECTED....I have no idea when it will happen =(. So, I totalllllly feel ya girl. I also start clomid soon. Doc says I will NEED it to get pregnant...bc let's face it, pregnancy is not possible without ovulation. I'm rooting for u =).
Baby Dust to all!
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J-Rafih and Abg1989: keep strong, keep the faith that you WILL get pregnant, and don't forget to cry when you need to. I hope that maybe being told about your ovulatory issues gave you some satisfaction in the sense, "Oh, okay... so there is an explanation for this and and direction for me to me move forward...," rather than some unexplained mystery. I am not assuming it makes not having conceived yet any easier, because it all sucks, whether or not your infertility thus far has been explained, remains a mystery, is secondary, etc.
I woke up to AF this morning, after my first round of Clomid. I thought I was going to be devastated, and just when I started to cry, I started to think about all of things for which I am grateful: my dad is stable and slowly making process; my beautiful son, Jonas; and my teaching job that I love. I am not normally one who does that type of coping mechanism, because quite frankly, sometimes it's crap: we all have dreams, and no matter what you have, it doesn't always make up for what you idealize. Today it worked for me though, and it is almost a divine experience of a sort.
Recently I have experienced people, including my DH, telling me that I should be more grateful for my son rather then dwell on a child that I don't have. I am so grateful for him, and that hurts me when people say that, but I don't feel that having one child should disqualify me from the devastation of having secondary infertility. I loathe when people try to interpret or qualify the amount of pain or sadness they feel other should be allotted.
Sorry I had to vent... I will never understand the amount of pain those of you who are trying for your first child are having, but if my secondary infertility is any indication of even a small amount of it, my heart breaks for you, but sincerely sends exponential positive energy your way.
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Jac019.... There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you wanting to have another child. You're not only wanting it for you, but for Jonas to have a sibling and a friend as well. Just bc u want another baby doesn't make u greedy or make u any less grateful for your son. I'm so sorry to hear about AF but I'm glad that u took it as a chance to be thankful for what you do have, which I know you were grateful anyway, but just taking the time out to think has helped u cope and I applaud u.....I would bawl like a baby to get AF lol! So..... That's beautiful =).
AFM.... I don't have any children. I do have 2 beautiful nieces whom I love soooo much and they have helped me cope when our ttc journeys fail. When I found out I was preggo last month , which turned out to be a chemical pregnancy or lab error, I actually had someone tell me that they didn't know I wanted kids. They figured I wouldn't want kids bc of aniya and aliyah (my nieces)..... seriously...? It honeslty pissed me off, lol. They aren't MY children and even if they were why would it be so wrong to want another one? So I understand why it aggravates you.
Baby Dust!
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Jac1019 - don't be sorry about venting, I think it's something we all need to do sometimes. I know if I didn't I think I'd go insane. I don't have child number one yet, but because I have PCOS I know that after I do have child #1 I will have to go through his whole process again for #2 and I think I'll feel just as devastated when were trying for number #2 as I do right now. Just because your upset about what you have to do to get another child doesn't make you ungrateful for the one you have, but I think some ppl have a hard time understanding what it feels like to go through what we are. So that's why you have us to vent to :) we understand what you're going through regardless if you already have one :)
I'm glad you were able to cope with getting AF, as that can be really hard. But just remember at least you ovulated last month and hopefully this cycle will now be the one :) and I'm really happy to hear that you're dad is stable!
I have six more days before I can take a test but I'm not showing any sings that I'm pregnant :(
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Jac 019.... There is nothing wrong with wanting to have another child. It doesn't make you greedy or less grateful of your son to want another one. And you not only want another baby for yourself, but so that
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Disregard that last message from me.... my phone went crazy and I didn't know my other had sent. Lol!
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March 7th can't get here fast enough! I go in for my blood test on that day. I am supposed to start ovulating within the next two days...I am hoping and praying that this will be mine and my husbands time to get pregnant! We are beyond ready!
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Thank everyone for the comments, I start Clomid tonight and i'm really excited, it really as a relief finding out that I wasn't ovulating, I mean it was still frustrating knowing I had been trying for something that wasn't going to happen but at least now I know the problem and there is a real solution that has worked for many many people. I'm a little nervous about the side effects but i'm planning to take the pill tonight before bed so hopefully I will sleep through everything.
Good luck to everyone testing, trying, or wherever you are in your own cycle.
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J-Rafih - Good luck with you're first month of clomid! I'm really hoping it successful for you the first time around! If you have any questions about whats going on in your cycle as you're going through it, we're definitely all here for you! As I know I had a billion question my first month, and still sometimes do!
O-Baby - waiting is the hardest part! I think that is the most agonizing part of this whole process because most of the time all you can do is wait. I'm not a fan of it lol. But I'm hoping you get good results from your blood test on the 7th and that you ovulate this month!
5 more days until I can take my pregnancy test! Ugh I have a feeling this week at work is going to drag on so bad! I really hope this is the month as I'm so sick of everyone around me being pregnant :(
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J-Rafih, let us know if you experience any side effects. All I really had was mild sadness/disconnect.
Hopefullysoon and O-baby - fingers crossed!
I start my next round of clomid on Weds. Hopefully the side effects are mild.
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Hey everyone, so I took my first clomid pill last night YAY!! so far so good, I feel a little sleepy but I think I might just be tired. The only thing that's kinda weird for me right now is I started spotting on CD 23 which isn't a big deal because i'm all over the place with AF but i had bright pink spotting and some mild cramping that went away after 2-3days and usually then i get my AF full force and now there is nothing, i know the doctor said i'm not ovulating but now it's got we wondering if maybe that could have been implantation spotting...and if i am pregnant is clomid harmful to the pregnancy.. now i'm freaking out ahh...maybe I should call my doctor, why does this stuff have to be so confusing :(
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J-Rafih, put your mind at ease and call your doctor. Did the doctor do an ultrasound before you started clomid to confirm that no ovulation took place? I am sure you are fine, and I most likely the doctor did the appropriate tests to make sure you are set to take clomid, but again, call anyway just for peace of mind.
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J-rafih - I dont think you have anything to worry about but maybe just call your dr. Like jac1019 suggested just to put your mind at rest.
So I was getting to impatient to wait to take a pregnancy test, so I took one this morning. It's 4 days though before my expected period so it's only 78% accurate, but it was negative :( and I have a feeling that result wont change in the next four days :( I hate this whole process!
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JRafih.... I would call the doctor. Did they do a bloodtest to confirm u weren't pregnant before they started u on clomid? Don't you have to be on ur AF to start clomid? Are you on AF or did u assume the spotting was AF and u counted it as cd1? I'm just confused on how u can have taken ur first clomid pill if uve not started AF. Don't mind me I'm just a little ditsy haha. But call ur doc incase! It would be super awesome for u to be pregnant =).
Hopefullysoon....I'm so excited for u. I hope ur see ur bfp!
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abg1989
The doctor didn't do a blood test to confirm that I wasn't pregnant and he told me to consider my first day of spotting as day 1 because that is the first day my hormones dropped causing the spotting in the first place, Because i get my AF so often they said clomid should help shorten the AF and regulate my cycle. For example this cycle i started spotting on Jan 26th. I spotted for 7 days and then had AF for 7 full days. I had nothing for the next 7 days and then started spotting again. I basically don't have time to ovulate because i'm just always on friggin AF.
I tried calling the doctor today but apparently he was in another town for the day, I don't think i'm pregnant because for those 7 days i didn't have AF i used OPK's and didn't get any positive.
I donno i'm just so confused, I was really looking forward to starting this whole process and now I feel like i'm not getting the best advice from my doctor.. URGH
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J-Rafih - hi im new to the board as well. I started my first round of clomid on Sunday night. So it looks like we are like 2 days behind eachother. I am taking it at night, 75mg, like around 10:00pm and going right to bed afterwards. I have not had any negative side effects, not that I would notice anyway since I take it right before going to sleep. I hope all is well with you and its just period bleeding and nothing more. Well good luck to all you ladies trying for a baby =)
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