Miscarriage
3 Replies
Stars - November 28

Hi ladies, I am 25 and TTC. My boyfriend and I have gotten pregnant twice but lost both at 8 weeks and 5 weeks, it's 6 months since the last miscarriage an we are still TTC.. Any one else feeling frustrated?

 

MilanaK - April 25

I'm so sorry you had to go through MC. But now I feel I'm not alone in this and I have someone who will listen to my story, understand me and support me.

I'm not the one who talks about my problems with family or friends. Even my husband... Though he supports and comforts me, but I know he is also in pain as I am. So I don't want to drop too much feelings and thoughts on him. I can't speak with friends. They just don't get it. I tried a couple of times to share my feelings with my best friends, but they start to give advices like "eat healthier" or "change the doctor" or "try new meds" or "read in the internet what to do" etc. I know they want to help and I'm not resenting. I just needed some compassion and reassurance... Well anyway I have you guys. We are all in the same boat.

My name is Mila. I'm 38, live in Italy. I'm married, no kids. My dh and I have been ttc for 9 years already. Not only it was hard to conceive, but also it was hard to carry. I had 3 MCs. I've lost my little babies on 7-8th weeks of pregnancy. My last one was on 19th of January this year. I'm so tired. I decided to stop torturing myself and my husband. These 9 years all we were carrying about was to gp and carry a baby. I feel like our relationship became not that good as they were in the beginning. We still love each other and want to have kids together. I just feel like we don't enjoy life and our love.

So, what I'm trying to say is I decided to stop and choose another option which will help us to become parents. I'm thinking about surrogacy. What do you think about it? My husband doesn't like this idea at all. First of all surrogacy is illegal here in Italy. I told him we could go abroad. But he said this is too expensive. We googled prices in the USA and they are really high… But we could take a loan or smth like that… He doesn’t want to listen. So I decided not to push on him and make some research on this procedure by my own. Then I will explain him all aspects so we'll be able to decide what is better for us.

I'm so sorry for so big post! I hope it didn't bother you. Thank you so much for reading it! I'm feeling better now. I wish you best of luck!

 

Anjlina - September 20

I don't have any advice to tell you but my sympathies are with you..try to be positive and calm....God bless you

 

Isida - November 10

Hello, dear. Two miscarriages is a reason to start worrying. I recommend you to consult the fertility specialist. A lot of women need help to conceive. There are a lot of reasons of miscarriage. You have to figure out what caused your MCs. First of all both your husband and you have to go through the examinations. You have to find out if you have a chance to get pregnant. That’s why you should choose the reproduction center. I know that loosing kids is a huge stress for women. That’s why you should protect yourself. What if you need some treatment?
Infertility is a very popular problem nowadays. A lot of women just give up and don’t try to find the solution. I’m proud of those women, who don’t give up. It is very important to keep looking for the solution. Modern medicine offers so many ways to become parents. I know a lot of women, which got pregnant with the help of IVF. As for me it is absolutely natural way to conceive. Unfortunately, there are some cases when IVF doesn’t work. Those women, who are unable to conceive, choose to go for surrogacy. It means that an outside woman carries the baby for biological parents. Someone says that it is not safe and it is unnatural. I just want to ask why? Surrogacy gives infertile couples a real chance to become parents. Why not to use it? As for me it is absolutely normal.
I’m not saying that surrogacy is your only chance. But I definitely think that you should consult the specialist. Everything will be fine, dear. I wish you all the best.

 

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