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Mndpnd92 God hear our prayers, he's going to give us all our little bundle of joy someday, I know it's hard waking up to infertility everyday.

I have a question ladies, have going through all of this made u closer to your partner of distance?

Me personally I think it has changed my marriage, because I feel isolated, lonely, embattled and sad about the whole situation I guess because I have no support this is d only place where I find support. My husband and I both feel like we are missing something in our life which we are so going through this has made us more distant instead of closer. Wat about u ladies?

I have a question, since we all are trying to conceive here have you ladies gotten closer to ur husband or distant?

I personally have gotten distant, my marriage has changed a lot I guess because I really don't have any support dis is the only place where I can get a little support. I feel lonely, depressed, stressed, embarrassed and sad about this situation. My husband and I both feel like we are missing something in our lives and not complete which we are. It's just getting worse not better. How do you ladies feel?

I mean it guess it really depends on the person. For me personally I think it swings either way. Sometime I feel distant from my husband because I feel like he just does not undestand the burden of feeling like you cant have kids because for me it makes me feel like less of a woman. But then other days I feel so much closer to him because he really supports me and tries to comfort me as much as he can. He takes me to my doctor appts and he always listens to my feeling and really takes them into consideration and tries to really give me a more poitive attitude about the hold thing.We do have the moments though especially me where I feel like something is missing and I know the only thing that will help is to have a blessed baby. If it wasnt for him I would not have the go getter attitude that I have today. He is what keeps me going. But I must admit I am not sure how much longer I can have a positive attitude without breaking down. I had my HSG this month so I am really helping this does the trick for us because I just dont know what else to do. It makes it even a little more difficult because I see all of my friends and family getting pregnant and I am even holding a baby shower this month. I am so happy for everyone to be blesse but I cant help t wonder why not me? what am i doing wrong? It is really hard to stay strong and put up a front in front of everyone.

Dats the problem it dnt even bother my husband I feel like he dnt even care at all. If I was the one with d problem I wud try 2 b der 4 him every day. U got 2 b really strong to hold a baby shower, I cudnt do it the last baby shower I attended I had to cry after I had got home it just hurts, an everyone was telling n asking me its time for me to have one when dey had no clue of wats going on. I have became so depressed dat I have isolated myself from family members, it has gotten just dat tough. I had consider do n ivf in d future if I dnt become pregnant natural but idk if hubby gne give me d support dat I'm gne need. I'm just ready for all of dis to be over soon. Baby dust to all.

It is extremely hard for me to hold the baby shower and I am not that strong to be honest I often cry and sometimes I have to hold it in when we are in public. And i completely understand how you feel about people always asking you when you are going to have one. I get that all the time and everyone is always saying well you must not be trying hard enough. People have no clue how hard me and my husband are trying and they just dont get it. I dont wanna tell people because I dont want sympathy you know. I really hope this misery ends for all of us soon and we are blessed with a baby!

I know exactly how u feel, i even get upset when i see a pregnant person or something that reminds me of a baby.Sometimes when people ask me now, i just say one day or i dnt know. They act like we have a choice or can controll nature if it was up to human we would all have a baby but thats not how it works it all works on God time. I feel you on not telling everyone what your'e going through, iv'e only told a few family people and sometimes i regret telling some of them because they didn't give me any support and they start looking at me differently the only way i see it now is the only people that understand it is if they have been through it before. What do you say when people ask you when you are going to have a baby?

I know exactly how u feel, i even get upset when i see a pregnant person or something that reminds me of a baby.Sometimes when people ask me now, i just say one day or i dnt know. They act like we have a choice or can controll nature if it was up to human we would all have a baby but thats not how it works it all works on God time. I feel you on not telling everyone what your'e going through, iv'e only told a few family people and sometimes i regret telling some of them because they didn't give me any support and they start looking at me differently the only way i see it now is the only people that understand it is if they have been through it before. What do you say when people ask you when you are going to have a baby?

I say the same thing. "Oh eventually we will have kids." Eventually I think in my head, I want it now. We have had 2 miscarriages in the past year and within 3months of having my HSG. I had gone through further testing and we found my body isn't producing B6 and B12 also my blood clots too much so now I am on baby aspirian. So hopefully it will all work out.

Jesse1782 so sorry to hear that, but at least you know you can get pregnat. I daydream everyday wondering of wat it would be like for me to be pregnant. Hope things get better, keep us posted.

Jesse1782 so sorry to hear that, but at least you know you can get pregnat. I daydream everyday wondering of wat it would be like for me to be pregnant. Hope things get better, keep us posted.

When people ask me all I say is either we are working on it or someday because I honestly dont know what else to say. And I do to wish that I hadnt told some of my family members because instead of and reassuring me and being supportive all they have to say is oh oh oh. And I am extremely sensative to like even when watching tv it seems like every show I watch someone either has a newborn or find out they are pregnant and I cant help but get sad even though I know sometimes it is not realisitic it still hurts because there are people out there who dont realize what people like us are going through.

And it makes me even sicker when there are people who dont relize the blessings of children. I know someone who has given birth to seven kids and does not have any of them because she says she doesnt want them. It pisses me off so bad children are not toys they are human beings and are little blessings. It seems sometimes that those who do not want children get them and those who want them so bad do not. Some people just treat there children so badly as if they are anooyed by them but its hard for me to look at them as anything but amazing.

mndpnd92 you are so right, and i be feeling the same way it's like i be having to think about what im going to say way ahead of time incase someone ask me that question, i am also sensitive. The other day i bought a girl newborn outfit its so cute and i look at it everyday and it actually makes me feel better instead of depressed. YES, kids are a blessing and there are a lot of parents that dont realize that. I guess they have to go through something to really appreciate it.

I can totally see where you are coming from with the newborn outfit. I use to think looking at baby stuff would get me depressed but it actually is the opposite. When I got to stores and look at baby items I think this is what I could posibble have in the future and it helps me to keep a positive attitude.

Yeah, somtimes it does make me depressed when i look at toys and stuff in the store but i guess it depends on what mood im in when i go to the store.I'm so hopping the time come for us.