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dear adney you can not blame yourself for something un-controllable. Declaring yourself unlucky is a sad thought. Infertility due to any reason is a serious issue. But punishing yourself is wrong in every way. My opinion might help here because i am also in desperate need of kids. Hormonal imbalance triggered infertility in me few years ago. proper blood was not reaching to my organs. I used to be stressed person because of my hectic job routine. I lost my job in the process of treatment. I suffered more than i can bear. But after all this time i am still praying and hoping for good even it depresses me usually. Do not lose hope first of all. Keep yourself encouraged through prayers. Your mental health should be your priority. Communicate with your husband and try sort things out in the process of having a baby you might lose your husband and home.

Well, you're right about this there is no life without having a child. Marriage and family are incomplete..I've been there. I can understand your pain and total feeling. I'd suggest you stay calm and strong. I think destiny will have a better a plan for you in future. Don't get depressed or entertain bad thoughts in your mind. Well, I'd like to tell you about myself. I myself have been there..After even 3 years of marriage, I had a surgery which made me infertile due to my uterus removal. My life was empty and there was no hope I could find..I was considering myself like a burden even on husband..But thanks to him he fought me out of it. I was so depressed and sad about it. But he helped me out of it. My husband taught me that I was taking my infertility in a wrong way, which was in a wrong way. Well, I'd also suggest you to leave it behind and look out the life awaiting for you out there and seek other options to sort this out and enjoy life...Sending a lot of support...xoxo

Hi Adney! No doubt dear that you are going through a very difficult situation. It is very hard for you to believe that you cannot have your own children. But what can someone do now. It is fated. I hope you bear this pain with courage and strength. Which female does not want to be a mother? It is the utmost desire of every women to have their own children. Children complete a family and without then a family is not completed. Everything seems to be isolated and even the person facing such a problem feels very lonely as there is no one to discuss such problems with. I am also having a similar problem. I also cannot have my own children. I cannot become a mother. It is because my doctor told me that i am having a fatal heart disease due to which it is very dangerous for me to get pregnant. Because if I get pregnant with this disease I can even die. I know this is very risky but I want to get pregnant because my husband feels upset when he thinks about kids. Although he does not show to me but I can feel it. He still loves me a lot but I am really afraid that he will leave me one day. I don't know what to do. It’s just hope over hope. I don't want to lose him. I hope you will also be a bit satisfied after you know that there are other women with similar problems and they are here to support each other. That’s a good sign. Keep it up. Lots of hugs!

Hello Adney! I read your post and feel sorry about your situation. Dear! don't feel upset as it's not your fault. I can understand your feelings about not having kids as I myself haven't any kids yet. Me and my husband also love children and trying for three years. This year I had miscarriage due to incompetent cervix. The loss of my child was really heartbreaking and I became very depressed.I couldn't eat and sleep well. Life seemed miserable.My husband helped me to console. I heard about surrogacy from some of my friends. This seemed to me a good option and now feel hopeful. Me and my husband are searching for appropriate doctor and surrogate. You can also opt for surrogacy for children. Hope you become successful.Wish you all the best. Take care!

Hello Adney. Gosh you truly have been through so much. Please keep your head high. At least you were about to have a child. I have been married and have been infertile for more than 12 years. I can't have a child at all. Its due to a rare condition of my uterus. So with respect to me, you are pretty lucky. And I believe there are cures for your problem. Don't give up. Just go from one doctor to the other. I have been doing so for my condition despite being told that there is no cure for me. So keep trying and keep praying. All the best my friend. And yes, you can always opt for surrogacy if you wish.

Discussing the pave road you are walking on is helpful sometimes, your story broke my heart. I can realize your agony as i am going through same pain. I have been trying from several years to conceive but nothing happened so far. We were happily married for many years and thought to have kids would bring back the lost light in our lives. But after many efforts and struggle we still are bare handed. The day lab reports spotted me with thin uterus lining my life changed. I used every required medicine. Even trial of natural remedies did not produce any output. Frustration In me and my husband is growing day by day. I am frightened that he might leave me. Because he is loyal and kind form very long time. I prioritize his happiness over everything. I realize that it might be a time to move on and consider other options as well. I wish I could get some helpful opinion through this forum.

Hi, Isabel, I really feel sorry for you. I can imagine how it feels after a miscarriage. Although I have never been through such situation, I know how painful it can be. I can understand how happy a woman can be when she knows that she is pregnant. I know how heartbreaking it would be when that baby is taken back from her in form of miscarriage. I know it is not my fault. I feel depressed because it is due to me we cannot become parents. I was so depressed last year that I stopped eating well. I am suffering from a heart disease. I even stopped taking medicines regularly. As a result, I had to stay in the hospital for a week. At that time, my husband never left my back. He always supported and cared for me. He never ignores me but still, I feel alone. I want a miracle to happen so that I can become a mother.

I'm in the very beginning of my surrogacy journey. But your post made me cry. I want to find surrogate mother and to know she's pregnant so much. This is the only thing I'm thinking about 24/7. I'm sorry you faced situation that you can't carry a baby by yourself. I had a miscarriage which caused infertility. But we are still lucky there are women who are ready to help us to carry our children. This is kind of hard to watch another woman carrying your baby but don't be upset about it. You still have options which can help you to have your own child. I wish you best of luck!

Hello Isabel! I feel very sad after reading your story. I know how hard it might be for you. Every women desires to have their own children but everyone does not gets to fulfill their desire. Children are the utmost priority for every couple. Everyone loves children but there are different complications for women that does not let them have their own children. You need to be brave enough to deal with such situations. I can feel that you are really broken from inside and feel hopeless but there might be a solution for your problem. I hope you are understanding me. You are not alone in this. About 20% of the women are facing such problems. I am also one of them. I and my husband also love kids. We were very happy to start a new family. After many tries I failed to get pregnant. I got a complete medical checkup. The doctor told me that I am totally fine with my fertility but there is a disease that is not letting be to have my own children. He told me that I have a disease that is the reason for it. I was really shocked. I did not know what to say and what to do. After this I could not face my husband for weeks. He loves me a lot and cares for me. My health is his first priority but deep inside I know he is also upset but does not show to me. I was relay depressed in those days. But now I have decided to step up and have a proper treatment. I will try my best to get a cure for this. I try to keep myself healthy and happy as I have known that this is not the end. I hope you will also try to get your treatment and never lose hope. Take good care of yourself.

Hey Adney thanks for replying. It was very happy moment when I got to know that I am going to be mother of girl. I had even bought clothes and cot for her. But little did I knew that I would lose her before her birth. It was too sad and heartbreaking to lose a dear one. I had many sleepless night and couldn't eat well. Negative and depressing vibes kept surrounding me. Like you I want to have kids and complete my family. My husband has been very supportive in this regard. He cares for me. We both want to try surrogacy. This seems ray of hope for us. You are lucky to have supportive and loving husband so why not discuss about surrogacy with him. He might agree about it. My prayers for your good health. Keep in touch. Good luck!

Oh dear. Adney please take care of yourself. Even if you weren't a heart patient, you still shouldn't have left your diet. I know this is problematic. I know you are depressed. But try to get a grip of yourself. If you don't take care of your health, you will risk death. And you can never be happy straying close to your demise. Please, for all of us, do take care of yourself. And who knows? Maybe they will find a cure for you in the near future. Hold on to yourself. And your husband. Cherish all the good things in your life. And please don't stop eating again.

• Why nature curse some ladies? Why nature does not grant them children. Hi. I am isabel mason. My age is 40. I am infertile woman. You can say i am cursed. I wonder! Why nature has punished me so badly. I want to grow my family. I want to see my children growing. I want to live a normal life. Sigh! I recently recovered from ovarian cancer. This changed my life forever. Doctors removed my ovaries. They declared that i would not be able to conceive ever. My husband is very nobel man. Hr also want a baby but does jot want me to suffer more. I wish i could fulfill his dream. I want to go for some oter technique. I wish i could get a solution.

Hi dear. Don't sound so miserable. I disagree that being childless is the most unlucky thing. This is because there are so many options available. These options can change your childlessness. They include surrogacy, adoption, IVF etc. Keep fighting!

Hello, Milana, you have made a very good choice of discussing your problem here. It is better to share your problems with the people who are facing or have faced such problems. You might be able to get the best advice because of the different experiences of different people. The surrogacy procedure is not a complicated one. The first step is to contact and make an appointment with the clinic you wish to choose. Then you have to visit the clinic and they will take some necessary tests. Based on the results of those tests, a further process will be conducted. The clinic will be helping you to find a surrogate mother. Try hard to convince your husband, as surrogacy is the best option you have. I am recommending you to go for surrogacy because of my personal experience with it.

Hello, Adney, nobody is unlucky in this world, my dear. It is just the game of fate. I know it is hard to cope up with life without kids. The life without children is not over. You have to stay strong and courageous. People pass harsh and rude comments about your infertility. The best way to answer them is just to ignore them. It is not that you are incomplete. You have your husband with you. You even have your parents. Please do not lose hope. I would suggest you go for fertility procedures or treatments. Surrogacy is one best option. I also had my baby through surrogacy. I think you should consider surrogacy as an option. I hope my post will be helpful for you.

Hello dear! I'm really sorry you have to go through such pain. I know that this is really hard to be strong in such situation. I had 6 miscarriages. I completely feel your pain. We have been trying to conceive for 8 years. These years were a nightmare for us. I am very lucky I have supportive husband. But his and mine parents make the situation worse. They can't stop asking when we will give them grandchildren. They can't stop blaming me in inability to have children. They can't stop turning my life into a nightmare. In such situation it is very hard not to give up and stop trying. I've changed so many doctors, so many hospitals. I've tried literally everything to get pregnant and the most important to save the pregnancy. Unfortunately nothing worked for me. We wasted so much money and nerves and got nothing in result. After the pain we went through I'm actually surprised that we still have tiny bit of hope. We are thinking about the surrogacy option. This is our last chance and we want to use it. Dear I wish you all the best! I hope you will find answers to your questions. I wish you to find an option which will help you to become a mother!