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It is nice to see that you haven't given up hope. Half the battle is won when you refuse to give up. In your case, the battle is against infertility and let me tell you something. I was fighting the same battle too. I found victory in the form of surrogacy. Surrogacy is one of the two options you are considering. So, I believe sharing my experience will be informative for you. I went to a clinic that offers this service. The medical practitioners there took some test and my husband's semen sample to find a suitable surrogate mother on our first visit. Just as the match was found in 2 months we were called for fertilization and embryo transfer process which only took 5 days as we were using donor eggs. We were kept in the loop throughout the pregnancy and we got to meet surrogate mother by the 12th week of her pregnancy. The experience was quite similar to being pregnant me. A few months later we had a baby boy. After signing and transferring the proper documents, this baby became our son.

I will tell you the perfect solution. I have shared this solution with several women. Some forums are not so friendly when we talk about this topic. Unffortunately, people like us do exist but I am afraid a few have much awareness. I am glad I can say a few things here. My solution was surrogacy. Infertility is no longer a reason to despair. No matter what the reasons are behind it. Surrogacy allows you to have a child without physically bearing the fetus yourself. I will clarify further. Going for it through a trusted is more reasonable than having it done priately. I can recommend you my clinic in Pm. They did not waste a day as we arrived for our first visit and took my husband's semen sample the very first day. Once our SM was found they called us for stimulation process. We went for donor eggs. After fertilization process the embryo was placed in the surrogate mother's womb. We had our first meeting with the SM after 12 weeks of pregnancy and I was so happy to see how she and other SMs were kept. I don't think it is a taboo like I once used to.

Hi Selena.
I think it’s a great idea to use surrogacy. Both adoption and surrogacy work great for infertile couples. I know that adoption takes more time than surrogacy. But it’s up to you what to choose. I know a lot of couples, which are still happily married and have kids, born by the surrogate. I work in a psychological center, which helps infertile couples. That’s why I know how hard it is being unable to conceive. But I’m really happy that modern medicine is developing rapidly. Surrogacy and IVF are the best inventions of the humanity. It gives us a chance to make our dreams come true. I’m very glad that you decided to try it out. I’m sure you will get a positive result.
And what about your husband? Did you discuss these options with him? I know that a lot of men are against of the adoption. There are a lot of reasons, but they prefer surrogacy. That’s why I recommend you to talk to your DH. Ask his opinion. It will help you to make a decision.
By the way, I know several girls, which are single, but still used the surrogacy. Gestational surrogacy with donor sperm allows even singles to become parents. As for me, it’s great.
People spend a lot of money for shopping a other fun. And when it comes to surrogacy, they say it’s too expensive. I don’t think it’s right. Yes, I agree that the prices are very high. But you will get your baby! Isn’t it worth paying???
I’m very proud of you, dear. I really want you to become a mother asap.

I am so glad I came across your post. A few year ago I was in a situation similar to yours. But lucky for me, I found a solution. Since then, I have become active members of the forum. I believe that since I was lucky enough to beat my infertility issue, I should guide others too. Since there are numerous other women in the world who are desperate for a solution. Well, my solution was surrogacy. My 2-year-old son is a testament to the success of this option. I heard about surrogacy from a friend of mine who has worked for one such clinic. I decided to head over to the clinic and check things out for myself. I was a believer instantly! I knew I had come to the right place. The process was simple and the clinic staff was highly helpful. Best of all, there was hardly any need for dangerous treatments or medications. In less than a year later, my husband and I had our first son.

Hey lovely! I am glad that you have reached a conclusive phase. Things like this are difficult, I know. Now be careful with the clinic you choose. I am not sure if you want to go for it privately or through a clinic. What is your call? I would recommend going through a clinic for it. I had an amazing experience with a clinic that is why I would recommend choosing a clinic for it. My clinic handled everything in the most professional way. Sometimes things happen like a magic so perfectly that makes you wonder if it is real or not. Sorry for sounding a little too dramatic. Make sure you do your proper research. Just do not go for it privately. As per my estimates, it cost more than doing it via clinic.

I understand the frustration you are going through. Dealing with infertility can be tough. Especially when the many treatments just don't show results. But of course, there is always hope. Just because a few treatments didn't work does not mean there is no way out. Keep trying until you succeed. Forums like these are a great source of information on the subject. In fact, I will pitch in my two cents too. I believe that surrogacy is a brilliant option to consider. In my opinion, every infertile woman thinking of having a child should think about it at least once. The first step is to find a good clinic. I know of an excellent one. The rest of the procedure is simple and the clinic guides you along the whole way. The best part is that it is safe and next to foolproof.

I understand the fix you are in. Surrogacy is an excellent option. Unfortunately, many people don't know about it. Which is why they are suspicious about its success. Let me tell you about my own experience. Hopefully, that will help you come to a decision. Two years ago I came across an infertility clinic that is in the heart of a country known for its accomplishments in the field of genetics. I remember how difficult things were for us initially as we had no idea what the outcome would be. It was merely a leap of faith. It is now a pretty common solution and worth it totally. Not less than a decade ago one couldn't have imagined such a thing to have existed. I hope you find your best resort soon as well. Just try to keep your calm and take it easy. The world is full of problems but every problem does have a solution.

So glad to see you back! [3 I was wondering where you have gone. I daily come to the forum and wait for you to make any post. I feel very happy interacting with you. Your posts have helped me a lot and have been supportive. I know that you have been through a lot, and it’s time for you to make a decision. The two options you have been told by your mother are perfectly fine. I think that you should go for the surrogacy process because it will help you to have your own baby after all you have faced. Adaptation is also not a bad option but it brings a lot of responsibilities with it. Some people get very emotional and go for adaptation but later on, they regret it. You are a good person and I don’t want you to regret the same thing. You should look up to it carefully and think that if you are able to fulfill all the responsibilities or not. On the other hand, if you go for surrogacy you will be able to have a baby of your own with characteristics similar to you, and you will be able to create a strong bond with the baby. People find it difficult to have a strong bond between them and the adapted baby because it is not their baby. It’s natural that the baby will also not be able to fit with them. Such cases are very rare but I need to tell you about all the possibilities. Kindly, discuss these things with your husband and mother. I hope they will also understand it. I just want to help. Thanks.

Hi selena. It’s good to have you back. I was wondering where you have gone because I like to read your posts and share my opinions and problems with you. I can see that you will no longer be available here as you have come up with a decision to solve your misery. I am so glad for you dear that you have finally found a way to get out of all this. I know how tiring these tests and treatments are. I am also having my heart disease treatment for a long time. It also tires me but I don’t lose hope. I am doing all this for my husband. I also want to have a complete family. As you want to make a decision now I think I might be of some help to you. I know about the surrogacy process and I want you to go for it. Because I have seen a few infertile women who had the same options and they went for surrogacy. Adaptation is a bit difficult thing to do because you have to accept it that the child is still not yours. You are not the biological parent and this sense makes people upset many times in their life. Whereas, surrogacy help you to become biological parent even if you are infertile. See that’s the big difference. I would suggest you that you should shoose surrogacy as your final decision. Look for the clinics on the internet. Discuss all these things with your family and I hope they will agree on this. I also know of a clinic that offers surrogacy. Let me know when you finalize your decision so I can tell you about it. Much love!

Hello Selena. I am so happy for you that you have finally decided to make a decision for your life. Obviously, no women want such a life without children and incomplete family. Every other infertile woman like you is also eager to have a baby. But the difference is that some of them come up to make a decision for their life. Your post will serve as a powerful message for all the women are waiting for some help so that they can also make a decision. They two options that you have in your mind are totally perfect. I won’t suggest any other option other than adaptation and surrogacy. It’s your right to make the final call but as women and a friend, I would like to advise you to go for surrogacy. Adaptation looks a very easy procedure like to go and adopt a baby but after that, you have to deal a lot of things with. That baby will not be yours even if you adapt it. You might have interactions problem when the baby becomes a grown-up child. Because naturally children are bonded with their biological parents. On the other hand, surrogacy is a bot long process but it is safe and you can have your own baby. The baby will have your partners’ genes in it. You will have a natural connection with the baby and you will have the feeling of a real mother not of a mother who adopts a child. The process is also not very expensive. I know of a clinic that provides a lot of facilities and a few packages for the patients. I would like you to discuss it with your family and come up with the final decision. Lots of love.

Hey beautiful. Your condition is also very much similar to other infertile ladies on this forum. I daily visit the forum to read about different experiences that women share here and to give hope to other women who either feel shy to come up and share this problem or the ones who have lost hope and are very stressed. I have also gone through the same tough period of my life but I found hope during my miserable condition. I feel very sorry for your condition. I know how it feels to have tests and medication again and again. I am having my treatment for about 3 years now and I also feel the same as you. But I have to keep on going just for my husband. I will go for surrogacy if this treatment will show no progress in the coming year. One of my colleagues had her uterus removed 4 years ago. She also wanted to have a baby so she went for surrogacy and now she is a mother of a one-year-old baby boy. The baby is very healthy because the process has no harmful effects. I also suggest you that you should also go for surrogacy. Don’t waste your time just in thinking before it gets too late. Discuss it with your husband and tell him how eager you are to have the baby and how safe and easy this process is. I hope you both will make the decision very soon. Let me know if I can be of any help to you. Keep posting and stay blessed.

I am so glad for you that you have at last chosen to settle on a choice for your life. Clearly, no ladies needs such an existence without kids and fragmented family. Each and every other barren ladies like you are additionally anxious to have a child. In any case, the distinction is that some of them come up to settle on a choice for their life. Your post will fill in as an intense message for every one of the ladies who is sitting tight for some assistance so they can likewise settle on a choice. The two alternatives that you have in your psyche are thoroughly great. I won't recommend some other choice other than adaptation and surrogacy. I want to encourage you to go for surrogacy. Adjustment looks a simple technique get a kick out of the chance to go and adopt a child however after that you need to bargain a considerable measure of things with. That child won't be yours regardless of the possibility that you adapt it. That is why surrogacy is the best process and it is protected and you can have your own child. You will have the sentiment of a genuine mother not of a mother who adopts a kid. The procedure is not extremely costly. I am aware of a clinic that gives a considerable measure of facilities. Lots of affection.

Your condition very similar to the other ladies on this forum. I every day visits the discussion to peruse about various encounters that ladies share here and to offer the plan to other ladies who either grope bashful to come and offer this issue or the ones who have lost expectation and are extremely focused. I have additionally experienced a similar extreme time of my life yet I discovered expectation amid my hopeless condition. I know how it feels to have tests and medicine over and over. I am having my treatment for a long time. Be that as it may, I need to continue going only for my better half. I will go for surrogacy if this treatment will demonstrate no advance in the coming year. One of my associates had her uterus removed a few years back. She also needed to have a baby so she went for surrogacy and now she is a mother of one-year-old child kid. The procedure has no unsafe impacts. I would recommend you that you ought to go for surrogacy. Try not to squander your opportunity just in deduction before it gets past the point of no return. Talk about it with your husband and reveal to him that you are so anxious to have the infant and how sheltered and simple this procedure is. I trust you both will settle on choice soon. Take care.

"Hiya! Yea, I was starting to think why am I not seeing Selena's post anywhere, lol.

Found somethin'... will change your life... now you are talkin'.
Really, whenever I hear and see people getting all amped up about what life has to offer, I can't help myself getting all blushed up like I am right now. Blushing for you my dear :)

I don't know what others have to say, but surrogacy is the way to go here if you ask me, Selena. I haven't experienced it myself, but my sister in law has and she (and her baby) is healthier and happier than ever (I'm the witness here).

The only thing with surrogacy that's important is to choose the right doctor/clinic. The clinic, my sister-in-law consulted had the best medical professionals - seek advice here from others as well about the best clinics and go along with it. I'm confident, like millions, you won't regret it either, young lady.

Oh, and you ARE doing the RIGHT thing. Stay healthy & hopeful and keep posting!"

You are very right in thinking that you can lead a complete life by opting for any one of these methods. Adoption or assisted conception methods like surrogacy is just what you need. These methods are safe, legal and easy. I am a big advocate of surrogacy. Ever since my own experience with the procedure. I was unable to conceive. My egg count was normal but for some reason, I was unable to conceive. I went to this surrogacy clinic. They did some initial tests and asked me to return in a few days for stimulation. After this, they collected eggs from me. These were fertilized with my husband's sperm. They took a large number of eggs so that they could attempt fertilization repeatedly. Afterwards, these fertilized eggs were placed in a surrogate mother. And nine months after we had a child. After clearing our bills, we were provided all the documentation and were free to go home.

An adoption is a wonderful option. There are so many children who want a family. And then there are so many couples who want children but can't have them. Adoption solves problems for both. But adoption is also tricky. Sometimes you have to wait for years until you are able to adopt. This is why I believe surrogacy is a better option. I know of a clinic that offers surrogacy at the best rate and quality. In the initial consultation which is free, you can decide which plan you want to follow. Depending upon whether you are able to donate eggs or not and whether you can carry a child or not. This helps determine whether you just need an egg donor or a surrogate mother or both. With each option though there is a condition. That only the client's husband can provide the sperm. This way infertile couples are able to have children who share their genes.