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Hi, Selena. I feel how frustrated you are. I work in a psychological center, which helps infertile couples. I am not going to promote it ? I just want to give you some recommendations. All infertile women have the same problem. They are afraid that their husbands would break up with them. To say truth, it happens pretty often. But, as for me, this is also women’s fault. They become so depressed, so their husbands just give up supporting them. I understand that 3 years is a long term for TTC. But you should stay positive as much as it is possible. If you feel that you are out of powers to keep trying, you should go and ask for help. I mean the fertility specialist. As for me, it’s time. Modern medicine offers a lot of solutions for infertile couples. You can find a lot of info on the web. An adoption is one of the most popular ways to get a baby. As usual it takes a couple of years to adopt the baby. The problem is that you can’t be sure that you will get a newborn. Also, a lot of men are against the adoption. So, you should discuss this option with your husband first.

Also, in your situation I would recommend you to consult the reproduction specialist. My sister, for example, got pregnant with the help of IVF. Now she is a happy mother. And it took just 9 months to get a baby. And if you are unable to give birth you can find the surrogate. In both ways you will be the biological mother of the baby born.
Well, I wish you to stay positive and keep trying. I’m sure you will get your baby when the time comes. Good luck, dear Selena.

Hey salena! I hope everything is fine. I feel very sorry for your condition. I know it is not something really easy to deal with. It’s the worst situation for any married women on the earth. Let me tell you salena that you are not alone in this. There are about 20% of the women in the world who are facing the problem of infertility. As you can see that this problem has increased in the past few years. But you don’t need to worry. Have patience and hope for the best because there is a lot to do in your life. Don’t get yourself stuck in this situation. Get up have your treatment, keep trying and one day you will see the positive results. I can feel your pain because I also cannot become a mother. In my case it’s not the infertility problem. It is my heart disease that my destiny has fated for me, not letting me have a baby. In the early months I was also very depressed and stressed. I got angry for very small reasons and could not control my anger. But the support and the love of my DH made me feel better and better. He gave me the confidence to not to worry whether I give him babies or not. He says that he will always be with me. But I am also afraid that he will leave me one day. That was the time when I decided that I am not losing hope and will keep having my treatment until I get some positive results. It’s been 4 years now but no positive result for me. But the good thing is I am still strong enough to fight and my husband is still with me and loves me a lot. I hope your husband also loves and supports you. Talk to him, share your feelings with him. He will definitely understand and yes the most important thing is not to lose hope. Take care. ?

Keep yourself busy epitome of depression could be crucial enough to destroy your life. People on forums can motivate you and can gave suggestions. But acting on it bravely is in your own hands.

Despite of the fact that advancement in technology has solved many problems. We still believe in sufferings which do nothing but make us miserable and mentally tired. Just don't give up. That thought keeps me going as well ???? cheers.

Don't be sad dear, keep your hopes positive, a friend of mine has been TTC for 7 years and it's a pretty long time, she was also very drained, and her relationship was also lost somewhere. But then few common friends suggested her to go for adoption, and maybe she can have her life back, She took some time with DH and they both thought of giving adoption a chance for them, and they should seek some help in this case, but a few days later, my friend had her tests positive, and she was expecting all of a sudden this all happened, from a nightmare to a good thing, don't lose yourself in all this.

hi selena! i am Dr.Emily. Your story is as depressing as mine. Ever since I joined this forum, i have seen some rays of hope. I am not the only one facing this problem. I think we should better get ourslelf checked to the gynae before anything worse strikes us.

Hey Emma! I really appreciate your words of motivation. The world needs people like you.

Hello, everyone, I hope to find you all in best of your health. I am new here. The reason of why I joined this forum is that I can share my feelings with you all. Many of us are going through the same issue of infertility. I really feel upset about how many of us are unable to become a mother. Every woman wants to be a mother in her life. I know how heartbreaking it is when she comes to know that she is infertile. I am in more pain because I am fertile. I really feel pity for myself because I cannot become a mother even when I am a fertile person. I am suffering from a heart valve disease in which my valve does not close properly and blood flows in a backward direction. I am not allowed by my doctor to conceive as it might take my life. I don't know what I need prayers or a breakthrough but the situation is taking a toll in my life. My husband supports me a lot but I feel like he cannot understand what I am going through. I think this is the best platform as we can discuss each other’s problem. Few women like me do not share their problems with their families. Therefore, this forum is the best option for such women to share their feelings.

Hey Selena. I can understand your plight. Sadly there are many of us who do. We have gone through what you currently are. I have been infertile for over 14 years now so you can imagine how much I have had to put up with. Yes the crankiness is not healthy. But that doesn't mean that its not justified. You feel incomplete and weak. But let me tell you one thing: that's where you're wrong. There is so much more to a woman's life than procreating. Don't demean yourself. And yes, I admit this is much easier said than done. A nice way to cope with this problem is to pray. Praying really diminishes all worries. And do stay away from the subject of children and conception. At least until your emotional health improves. Do reply soon and all the best.

Dear Selena, I emphatize with you. I believe it's hard for you. I know that you wish to be a mother. All of us do. You are not alone in this. We are here to support you. Don't forget your family. They are also suffering. Take care.

Sorry that you are feeling like that. Try to look deep inside yourself. Did you consider any other ways to get pregnant? Calm and think. Maybe to try ivf. This is good way to solve your problem. You have nothing to lose if you contact infertility clinic. Then you can decide what to do.

Hello, Selena Jones, I hope you feel better now. I know it feels to not be able to start a family. Do not lose hope at any cost. There must be some solution to overcome your problem. Don’t think that no one can understand you. Many women on this forum are even in worst condition than yours. Stay hopeful, courageous and your relationship will be fine. Try to engage yourself in some productive activities so that you can have a positive mindset.

Hello Cathyree, I am really happy for your friend. She is very lucky. She did not have to go through any sort of procedures. Natural pregnancy is indeed a blessing. Please ask her to consult the doctors regularly as she has conceived after a long time. I hope she had a healthy baby soon. Wish her all the best from my side.

Hi Salena jones, I can understand how infertility can affect your married life. I would suggest you to talk to your husband and tell him that it is not your fault. Have you consulted the doctor about your infertility issue? Don’t be depressed. Just sit back and relax. Surrogacy is an option you can go for. I am sure your husband will agree with it. Talk to him and things will be back to track very soon.

Hi, Selena. We know you are very much frustrated and exhausted. But my dear that is not a solution. We welcome you to this forum. My name is Isabel. I had cancer in my early age. And got my ovaries removed. Due to that, I cannot give birth to a child. But in your case, there is still hope. I would recommend you to pay a visit to a surrogacy clinic. As that would be the best solution for your issue. Infertility is not something from which you scare. There is hope there is solution visit a doctor. I hope will find a solution and soon you will give birth to a child. A lot of women are afraid of their marital status which is always affected due to infertility. Don’t be afraid, get yourself some medication.