Not Coping With IVF?

IVF is hard on your body and hard on your mind. People are all different and we handle these problems in different ways. Having said that, if you don't experience some degree of stress and anxiety during IVF, you're very unusual. The people who experience the most emotional strain are usually those who go through one or more unsuccessful IVF treatment cycle. The waiting period to find out if you are pregnant can be unbearable. Most fertility clinics provide some form of counseling to help with this burden - but how do you know if you need this kind of support?

Everyone Needs A Hand

Well, the short answer is, almost everyone going through IVF can benefit from some form of talk therapy or even psychological treatment. Remember that some medical researchers have found a link between infertility and depression. So, by sorting out your emotional issues with IVF, you may actually be boosting your chances of getting pregnant.

Even if your level of stress is mild, a therapist or counselor can probably give you some cognitive behavior tips - such as stopping what you're doing when you feel yourself starting to worry, and starting a different activity - preferably something physical.

In more extreme cases, in which IVF stress is tipping over the edge into depression, you may need a more intense level of support. If depression is negatively impacting on your whole quality of life, your therapist may even recommend that you stop IVF treatment for a while and focus on your emotional health.

As a last resort, your doctor may prescribe anti-depressants - however, these can be harmful during pregnancy, so it's vital for the health of the baby you've worked so hard to have that you are open and communicative with your fertility specialists about what type of medicines you're taking.

Signs Of IVF Depression

What follows is by no means an exhaustive list of signs that you are not coping with IVF, but it can be useful guide:

- Are you feeling sad all the time? Do you burst into tears for no apparent reason?

- Do you feel that there's really no point to life? Do you struggle to get up in the mornings and get on with your day?

- Has your sex life with your partner deteriorated or even become virtually non-existent apart from for conception purposes?

- Do you feel angry, upset or resentful when you see other pregnant women, or when you hear that a friend or relative has become pregnant?

- Are you focused on IVF and infertility all the time? Do you find there's no room in your life anymore for the activities you used to enjoy?

- Are you becoming increasingly isolated from friends and family? Do you find yourself spending significant periods of time alone with your thoughts?

If you are experiencing any of these emotions or thoughts, and indeed, if you're dealing with any sorts of feelings which leave you feeling overwhelmed or sad, the chances are, you probably need to some help to cope with your IVF treatment. Speak to your fertility doctor to enquire about further counseling. Remember that you also have the option of seeing an independent counselor if you would prefer to speak to someone who doesn't work in direct association with your clinic.

Login to comment

Post a comment

Hello I read this article and found this article awesome. I think you are very right, infertility and depression are very much related to each other. Last year, I came out of infertility through IVF treatment. It became successful and I am very happy now. But, I spend a lot of years in just waiting for the baby. At first, you don’t know that you are infertile or you are not making love correctly. I was so confused myself because my periods were regular and I don’t have any health issues. After one year mark of unsuccessful trying, we decided to consult a gynecologist. She listened to me and suggested M2Tone which a medicine to cure hormonal imbalance. After taking that medicine within a month, I conceived and became pregnant. We became very happy after that. I think those of the most wonderful days of my life. Every family member is caring me so much and we all were very happy. But, this happiness was just for three months and I miscarried after that. It is only through IVF that I became the mother of a baby boy.