Worried about husband's age...
6 Replies
mrsbcruz - January 13

So, first off I absolutely love my husband,
he's fine with waiting on EVERYTHING because he believes when it's meant for him to have it, it will just happen. This drives me completely MAD!
I am 19, and my husband just turned 30. (Please spare lectures, it works for us.)
For the most part, there is no time issue on my end (fertility wise) I'll be fine for a while; of course hoping that everything is normal. I'm not so sure about him, though. He wants to wait a solid 5-10 years. And I was reading a couple articles talking about the toll that age takes on sperm. And, well, I'm worried. We want a family, but he just seems to be more relaxed about it. And I don't understand why. So I guess what I'm asking here is: Does anybody know the risks of waiting that long? If we wait 5 years he'll be 35, and considering we want 4 kids... I'm concerned it wont happen for us. And that really bothers me...


olivia - June 10

if you are having problem with your set up and can't wait for 5 long years then talk to your husband about the issue and how you feel about it. it takes two to tango so make sure you're on the same boat.


xoxo - June 27

i agree! why wait long if can you can do it now? maybe he really doesn't want it. sorry i don't mean to sound bad but i just don't get his point.


monica - September 11

talk to your husband and tell him about the possible issues he will be facing in the near future if he waits that long. good luck!


Arose - September 27

Hi, dear,
It is ok if your husband wants you to take some time before you get into the family life. You see, unlike women, men know that the responsibility of fending for the family is on their shoulder. So, most of them would love to be financially stable before they start a family. I suspect that your husband wants to save; buy a house and a good car before he starts a family. Also, you need to remember that sometimes men will not start a family with a woman until he learns and knows the type of a woman he is marrying. This is where most women go wrong. So I believe your husband thinks that five years is enough time for him to decide whether you are the right woman in his life or not. One last thing I want you to do is to ensure that he is aware of the fact that children born to aged parents have a higher chance of suffering from Down syndrome than those whose parents are young.


natalika2017 - November 23

Hello ! I was also interested in this problem. My husband is 40 years old and we want a second child. The doctor says that since the age of 35, the quality of sperm is deteriorating. Do not postpone paternity - it's a bad miscarriage in a woman
The biological clock works not only in the female, but also in the male body.

According to doctors, in couples where a man is over 40, miscarriage is more likely, as the quality of the partner's sperm at this age is deteriorating.
What happens to male fertility with age. Aging affects the number of mature sperm cells. It was proved that the decrease in the production of active sperm cells begins at the age of 25 years. This is due to a gradual decrease in the amount of testosterone produced.

After 40 years, the decline in the production of testosterone hormone becomes particularly prominent. It leads to a decrease in bone and muscle mass. It leads to loss of sexual excitability. The ability to produce sperm cells decreases and there is a problem with erection.
Highlights the following effects of age-related effects on sperm:

Reduced mobility - spermatozoa do not ripen to reach the egg and fertilize it.

Decreased efficacy - not mature spermatozoa do not have enough strength to move forward and fertilize the egg.

Decreased ejaculation - ejaculation becomes weaker with age. Sperm is not thrown out as far as it is needed.
Still to this problem to concern both an alcoholism and smoking.
Among my acquaintances there are many infertile and in 25 years. Therefore, it seems to me 50% to 50%. Charlie Chaplin became a father at age 81. Of course, do not delay pregnancy. While you are young and healthy - there are many chances to give birth to a healthy child. And many teenagers want to see a number of young parents, not old age. Good luck to you. Have many children and be happy.


wellspringivf - May 29

I will suggest you both to visit fertility clinic and do all fertility related tests from that you will come to know the exact reason for your infertility. I don't think so men's age affects their fertility, there are many other factors like ejaculation, erection dysfunction, low sperm count, motility etc. You need to find out real behind it and take infertility treatment like IVF, IUI, ICSI or surrogacy.
Stay Positive and Happy!



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