Miscarriage
9 Replies
Stars - November 28

Hi ladies, I am 25 and TTC. My boyfriend and I have gotten pregnant twice but lost both at 8 weeks and 5 weeks, it's 6 months since the last miscarriage an we are still TTC.. Any one else feeling frustrated?

 

MilanaK - April 25

I'm so sorry you had to go through MC. But now I feel I'm not alone in this and I have someone who will listen to my story, understand me and support me.

I'm not the one who talks about my problems with family or friends. Even my husband... Though he supports and comforts me, but I know he is also in pain as I am. So I don't want to drop too much feelings and thoughts on him. I can't speak with friends. They just don't get it. I tried a couple of times to share my feelings with my best friends, but they start to give advices like "eat healthier" or "change the doctor" or "try new meds" or "read in the internet what to do" etc. I know they want to help and I'm not resenting. I just needed some compassion and reassurance... Well anyway I have you guys. We are all in the same boat.

My name is Mila. I'm 38, live in Italy. I'm married, no kids. My dh and I have been ttc for 9 years already. Not only it was hard to conceive, but also it was hard to carry. I had 3 MCs. I've lost my little babies on 7-8th weeks of pregnancy. My last one was on 19th of January this year. I'm so tired. I decided to stop torturing myself and my husband. These 9 years all we were carrying about was to gp and carry a baby. I feel like our relationship became not that good as they were in the beginning. We still love each other and want to have kids together. I just feel like we don't enjoy life and our love.

So, what I'm trying to say is I decided to stop and choose another option which will help us to become parents. I'm thinking about surrogacy. What do you think about it? My husband doesn't like this idea at all. First of all surrogacy is illegal here in Italy. I told him we could go abroad. But he said this is too expensive. We googled prices in the USA and they are really high… But we could take a loan or smth like that… He doesn’t want to listen. So I decided not to push on him and make some research on this procedure by my own. Then I will explain him all aspects so we'll be able to decide what is better for us.

I'm so sorry for so big post! I hope it didn't bother you. Thank you so much for reading it! I'm feeling better now. I wish you best of luck!

 

Anjlina - September 20

I don't have any advice to tell you but my sympathies are with you..try to be positive and calm....God bless you

 

Isida - November 10

Hello, dear. Two miscarriages is a reason to start worrying. I recommend you to consult the fertility specialist. A lot of women need help to conceive. There are a lot of reasons of miscarriage. You have to figure out what caused your MCs. First of all both your husband and you have to go through the examinations. You have to find out if you have a chance to get pregnant. That’s why you should choose the reproduction center. I know that loosing kids is a huge stress for women. That’s why you should protect yourself. What if you need some treatment?
Infertility is a very popular problem nowadays. A lot of women just give up and don’t try to find the solution. I’m proud of those women, who don’t give up. It is very important to keep looking for the solution. Modern medicine offers so many ways to become parents. I know a lot of women, which got pregnant with the help of IVF. As for me it is absolutely natural way to conceive. Unfortunately, there are some cases when IVF doesn’t work. Those women, who are unable to conceive, choose to go for surrogacy. It means that an outside woman carries the baby for biological parents. Someone says that it is not safe and it is unnatural. I just want to ask why? Surrogacy gives infertile couples a real chance to become parents. Why not to use it? As for me it is absolutely normal.
I’m not saying that surrogacy is your only chance. But I definitely think that you should consult the specialist. Everything will be fine, dear. I wish you all the best.

 

Daisy896 - May 18

Hi! It is hurting me to hear about your miscarriages. I know it is very difficult to face miscarriage. I had a miscarriage thrice. It was very frustrating. I lost all my hope of being a mother. But I came to know about surrogacy. I had passed through surrogacy process and blessed with a beautiful baby girl. You should not take the stress. I hope best for your TTC this time but if you didn't get any positive result this time you should go for surrogacy. Lots of love for you.

 

enawatson - June 1

I am so sorry for you. I know how much it is frustrating. I had 3 miscarriages. After that, I tried for about 5 years. I had no other way left. I also went for medications but it was just waste of time. I was so upset. It was like one day I was about to be a mother and the next day the blessing was taken from me. I was so broken. It was fate. So we decided to go for surrogacy. we started looking for different clinics. We found a renown clinic. We went there and completed all the formalities. Later we were given our surrogate mother. Now I have a baby. I have no more worries in life.

 

serra111 - June 1

I am so sad for you. I know the amount it is a disappointment. I have faced infertility for 10 years. I didnt know the reason. Even the doctors were unable to find the reason. I had no other way left. I additionally went for meds yet it was simply exercise in futility. I was so disturbed. It resembled one day I was going to be a mother and the following day the gift was taken from me. I was so broken. It was destiny. So we chose to go for surrogacy. we began searching for various clinics and hospitals. We found an eminence facility. We went there and finished every one of the customs. Later we were given our surrogate mother. Presently I have an infant. I have no more stresses throughout everyday life.

 

lisamatt - June 14

TTC is a tough journey. It demands lots of patience and strength. But it is sometimes difficult to stay calm. I can feel the pressure you are going through. I have been there too. We were TTC for like 2 years. But we never got a bfp. It was always bfn. We didn't know what to do next. But then I was diagnosed with unexplained infertility. It was like the end to me. Those three years were a complete mess. I cannot thank enough for surrogacy. Now we have our own baby girl.
I wish you luck. I hope you will get your bfp soon.

 

alexax - July 14

Hey ladies, I read your comments. Really sad stories. but don’t worry dears. Once you have a miscarriage. You may be offered medication that speeds up the passing of the pregnancy tissue. You may be asked to stay in the hospital until the tissue has passed, or you may be advised to go home. This procedure is often recommended. There will be the event in London. By clinic, whom success stories are very famous in Europe. if you are interested then you must have to contact them. May you got the best solution for miscarriage. This will lead you the happy life. The event will be held on 18 19 August in London. This is also a good opportunity for the residents of London. Thanks.

 

wellspringivf - July 18

So sorry to hear that, If you are facing multiple miscarriages there must be fertility issue. Drawing your own conclusions its better to visit fertility expert and find the remedy for this. There are many underlying reasons for multiple miscarriages, don't worry and be strong.

 

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